Rejection Is Part of the Job (And It Still Sucks)
Today’s business topic is rejection. (Sad trombone. Wah, wah.)
And yes — we’ve all been there.
You bid on it.
You auditioned for it.
You wrote the spec script.
You built the rough cut, the demo, the animation, the proposal…
And you didn’t land the gig.
Maybe you got a reply. A polite “we went another direction.”
Or maybe you got nothing at all. No response. No feedback. Just silence — which, if you work in voiceover, is pretty much the default.
And even when you know rejection is part of the business, it still hits.
Sometimes harder than you expect.
Because creative freelancing makes rejection feel personal — even when it isn’t.
Your work comes from you:
Your taste.
Your voice.
Your judgment.
So when someone passes, it’s easy for the story in your head to spiral into:
“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t have what they’re looking for.”
“Everyone else has figured something out that I haven’t.”
Let’s pause that spiral for a moment.
Most rejection isn’t a verdict on your talent.
It’s about fit.
Timing.
Budget.
Internal constraints you’ll never see.
Most decisions are made with incomplete information — and you’re often not in the room when the final call happens.
Why Rejection Messes With Our Confidence
One of the trickiest parts of rejection is knowing how to respond to feedback — or the absence of it.
Some freelancers respond by rejecting all feedback outright:
Getting defensive.
Feeling bitter about the client.
Burning the bridge internally.
Others go in the opposite direction — letting outside validation be the only measure of success:
If they’re chosen, they’re worthy.
If they’re not, they’re failing.
Neither extreme is sustainable.
The real skill here is discernment:
Learning how to extract what’s useful,
discard what isn’t,
and keep your sense of self intact.
Sometimes rejection rattles us not because we did anything wrong — but because it pokes at old doubts we’ve been carrying for a long time.
That’s why having people you trust matters.
People you can vent to.
Say the messy thoughts out loud.
Get them out of your system.
Because once the emotion moves through, you can refocus on what’s actually in your control.
And this is an important reframe:
Sometimes rejection isn’t about your talent —
it’s about how clearly your value came through.
How to Use Rejection Without Letting It Break You
This is where accountability meets compassion.
Looking at your bid, proposal, or submission with fresh eyes can be incredibly powerful.
Ask yourself honestly:
- Did I clearly explain why I’m a good fit for this project?
- Am I assuming the client understands my process?
- Did I rush this because I was tired, busy, or discouraged?
You might not be putting your best foot forward — and not even realize it.
That doesn’t mean you’re bad at your job.
It means you’re human.
This is where a second set of eyes helps:
- A trusted colleague
- A mentor
- A peer who understands your industry
Not someone who will tear your work apart —
but someone who can say,
“This part isn’t landing the way you think it is,”
or,
“You’re underselling yourself here,”
or,
“I don’t think you captured their vision.”
Fresh eyes can provide the much-needed outside perspective on how you’re communicating your value.
Another piece of the puzzle is education, especially when you’re bidding.
Not every part of your process needs to be visible.
But sometimes clarity works in your favour.
Spelling out:
- What goes into the work
- Why the cost is what it is
- What problem you’re actually solving
That’s not over-explaining.
That’s positioning.
You’re not begging to be chosen.
You’re showing how you add value.
Over time, the goal is to spend less energy chasing — and more energy attracting.
Clear messaging.
Confident positioning.
Boundaries around what you offer.
The right clients feel easier because they already get it.
So when the “no” shows up — or the silence — ask yourself:
- What can I refine without abandoning myself?
- What stays non-negotiable?
- What’s worth adjusting next time?
Rejection doesn’t mean stop.
It means recalibrate.
Clarify.
And keep moving.
Same body.
Different posture.
Same skills.
Different attitude.
We’re not trying to eliminate rejection.
We’re trying to make it survivable.
Useful.
And less personal.
Because freelancing can feel like applying to your own job over and over again — like you constantly have something to prove.
But you don’t.
Whether the client swipes right or swipes left,
you are still talented, capable, and valuable.
Never forget that.
This article is based on an episode of my Freelance Fitness podcast, where I combine short workouts with honest conversations about building a sustainable creative freelance business. If you work in video production, audio production, or any creative field and want business advice without hustle culture nonsense, you’re in the right place.



